Dear Karen

Dear Emma,
It breaks my heart when I read letters like yours because no one should be treated like this and you deserve a man who wants only you and is willing to put the effort into a relationship. The problem is, you are allowing your ex to do exactly as he wishes. You are the woman and, even though you don’t know it, YOU are the one in control of the relationship. You are accepting scraps because you don’t feel you deserve more but you you do.
You are not giving anything up if you leave him, because he is giving you so very little anyway.
Emma, you need to start working on yourself and start loving yourself so that you’ll never accept to be treated like this again. If you carry on you’ll never be happy. The are a gzillion men out there who can treat you like a princess and who you can give to, but you can’t even see them because you are mixed up in something so unhealthy. Relationships are about growth and giving and I really hope you can find that. Allowing yourself to carry on as you are is damaging for you.
Your ex is lying to you about the other woman because he still wants to have sex with you but he’s also making it very clear that your relationship is over. He’s having his cake and eating it and you must stop letting him.
Move out and make room for something much better, and start believing you deserve it.
Let me know what happens,
Love Karen