Dear Karen

Hello Karen

You probably don’t remember me but I was inspired by your last piece of
advice. I met someone once through a mutual friend six months ago and we
exchanged numbers , e-mails after one hello, a handshake and a brief
conversation. We have been talking and e-mailing but beginning to think that
I am putting too many eggs in this particular basket. To add to the mix,
they live abroad . I have family there and had arranged to holiday there in
6 weeks time before we even met. Now the doubts and butterflies have set in.
I have always felt I am too grounded to fall for someone on the internet, but
many phone calls and e-mails later I am beginning to wonder where this is
heading. There is no agenda on their part as they are financially
independent and reliant on nothing from me which makes it all the more
worrying. By the way, one of my biggest faults is second guessing
situations. What do you think ?

Nicole

Hi Nicole, I’m a little bit confused by what you mean when you say that he is independent with no financial agenda etc. Isn’t that a good thing. Wouldn’t it be worse if he did want something from you. If he just likes you for you and nothing else that sounds like a good thing.
Like you, I love second guessing but I’m beginning to learn that people are all so different that it’s impossible to know what other people are doing and why.
It sounds to me like he must be interested in some way because he is emailing and you are in contact after only a brief meeting but you have no idea what this means. Until you see his life a bit more it will be impossible to tell.
You were going where he is anyway so go not expecting too much and see what happens. Chance encounters are all for a reason but yes, you are putting too many eggs in one basket. Try and think about it less and enjoy yourself here until your holiday comes. Remember, it takes a long time to get to know someone.
Your email doesn’t say much about whether your contact has been romantic or friendly so it’s hard for me to tell not knowing too much.
Relax and know that if it doesn’t work out then it wasn’t meant to be and he isn’t the right one for you. Enjoy it while you go though.
Love Karen