I still love my ex.
dear Karen,
i went out with my ex for almost a year. we are both REALLY young like not even in high school. but it wasn’t that typical relationship. it was deep. he tought me how to love and was very nice to me he loved me a lot ( he wrote a poem about me) but my trust issues got in the way. so i was scared and “pretended” to like another guy. he was hurt by that but i kept the relationship going because i still loved him. eventually we broke up and i cried all night. his parents are never home and so i think he is just looking for someone to love him. he has completely changed into this jerk now. he has a major crush on my bff. well we dont really talk anymore because it is kind of weird between us. it hurts me soo much that he likes her and she is prettier than me and a lot more thin. you see my ex is not the most attractive person and he is chubby. but i love his chubby-ness. not alot of people do. but i love it. my fear is that my bff will say yes to him and htye will fall in love and he will have moved on. but i dont really think she will say yes because of the way he looks. i just want to show him that i am the only one for him but i am waiting for him to make the first move and i catch him all the time looking at me in class. when our eyes meet it is wonderful. but then in a hour i hear how much he loves her from my other friend. yeah he talks about hw much he likes my bff to my other bff who of course tells me all of this without a care because she doesnt understand why i still like him . i dont know what to do i LOVE him…please help me=((
sincerally,
liz
Hi Liz,
I’ve said it before on this page but looks have nothing to do with love. Just as you are attracted to your ex even though he is chubby, people are attracted to one another for all sorts of reasons. I’m sure you are very special so don’t worry about other girls. You have your qualities, just have confidence in them. I’m not sure what BFF is but I’m thinking that it stands for best friend?
Why don’t you tell him how you feel about him still. If he doesn’t feel the same, at least you can move on. EVERYONE gets rejected, believe me! You never know he might still feel the same way too though. What you should remember is that everything happens for a reason and that you will learn from this. Maybe you’ll learn that doing the pretending thing can backfire. I think it’s good to be honest and trust is really important.
You’re so young and I promise you’ll change so much that it’s rare to find “the one” so young but if he is the one – he’ll feel it too. I hope it works out but I promise if it doesn’t you will feel this way again. You sound lovely and sensitive – maybe you need to find a more understanding BFF to support you.
Love Karen
