How can I tell if he likes me?
Dear Karen,
The beginning of last year i met a guy who moved in across the street. He was always making me laugh and when we went to a class together he would sit near me and chat until it was time to leave. I was away for a while and when i came back he didnt seem to talk to me as much, one of his friends told me that he was crushing on me, he knew what his friend was telling me and sometimes would be with him but standing back not seeming to mind what his friend was saying. We would hang about with other people and it seemed he was trying to make me laugh and notice him, but i dont know if its just my imagination. Recently he said whatever his friend told me about him wasnt true and he was ’stirring’. Now i dont know what to think, is he flirting and likes me, or is he like this with everyone? Also, one of my best friends has told me she likes him aswell. I think like him a lot but i’m very shy and not the prettiest of the bunch either.
My heads so mucked up with things and i really dont know what to do, is there a way to tell he likes me?
Thank you!
Katie.
Dear Katie,
The first thing is that you say you are not the prettiest of the bunch. People come in all shapes and sizes and actually looks have nothing to do with acquiring a partner. Look at couples as you walk down the street. Lots of people who are not “obviously” attractive have partners. Then look at all the so called gorgeous people who aren’t in steady relationships. Our society puts far too much importance on looks and I get sucked in like the rest of them. The most attractive thing though is confidence. Believe you are attractive and you will be.
As far as this guy goes I am a bit stumped. I must admit. I have the same problem even now. Sometimes it’s very obvious when someone likes me and other times it isn’t and there are no hard and fast rules. Also he is young, he might like you and be shy or not feel ready for anything. The only thing is this, from what I have seen, When a guy likes a girl, he usually goes and gets her. He may just like you as a friend and he may like you as more, but maybe just keep going as you are, be his friend and he will get to know you. Remember this, if it’s meant to be it will be. I know you really like him and I hope he likes you but if not, be his friend and keep believing in yourself. I’m sorry I can’t give an answer to how you can tell for sure if a guy likes you – I wish I could (for all womankind!)
Love Karen
