Am I gay?
Dear Karen,
I am a straight male and have had a girlfriend for six years, but recently I have been having very innapropriate thoughts about another man.
The other man is gay and is very interested in an affair but I have only ever met him over the internet and he is 20 years younger than me (I am 37).
What should I do? Please help me Karen!
Love
Thomas
Hi Thomas.
There are a few things to work out here. You don’t say how you feel towards your girlfriend. Are you in love with her? Do you have a healthy sex life etc?
You may be having feelings towards this man because you don’t know him and because it’s not really real. If it was someone you knew then it would be easier to decide.
Have you had feelings for men before or ever experimented?
This other man is also very young so please be careful of that.
You need to find out your sexuality but I’m not sure that this is the way to do it. The first line of your problem is “I am a straight male” Perhaps you are just bored and fantasizing but if not then you need to find out. If you are gay there will be lots of changes in your life but we live in a much more accepting society and lots of support is available.
Whatever you do, please do your best not to hurt your girlfriend. I’m sure she would be shocked that you are flirting with a young male on the internet so consider her feelings.
Good luck,
Love Karen
